The Hidden Power of Emotional Needs

Last time we talked about what the character wants (which is a tangible goal that appears to be obtainable – something like, you want to be popular). Today we’ll unravel the power of a character’s needs (something intangible/emotional – such as, you need to find people who truly love you for who you are).

Most characters know what they want, or think they want, at the start of the story. But most characters don’t recognize what their true need is. When your character eventually ends up having a dark night of the soul, it’s usually because they lost what they thought they wanted. And that’s often when they realize what they truly need. Unfortunately, because writers are evil villains, the character probably won’t get what they need until the end of the story.

So how do you decide what they need – and what they’ll lose because of it? To find your characters’ emotional needs, we need to consider a few things:

Healing and Redemption: What are your character’s emotional scars? What do they need to heal, or find closure for? Find the things that haunt them and drive their actions, as they desperately seek peace.

Self-Identity and Acceptance: Does your character struggle with self-doubt, or feel like they don’t belong? Do they need to find acceptance in a judgmental world? Let their search for self-identity guide them.

Freedom and Autonomy: Does your character feel trapped by social expectations or their own fears? Use this information to help them fight for freedom.

Connection and Belonging: Does your character yearn for love, friendship, or a sense of belonging? Use this to transform them as they learn to form authentic relationships.

Once you’ve discovered your characters’ emotional need, now you can weave it into your plot. It should fuel their actions and propel them forward.

Before the story ends, your character needs lose what they need (for example, you became popular, grew close to the girl who is perfect for you, then turn into a jerk due to your newfound popularity and then publicly lose the girl). This will force your character to reevaluate their values and grow. It should challenge their beliefs, push them to their limits, and set the stage for their ultimate transformation.

This exposes their vulnerabilities and forces them to confront their internal conflicts. And while they may lose what they need, it is through this loss that they find the strength to evolve and grow (such as, after losing the girl of your dreams due to your jerky behavior, you see that you can stand up for nerds who were just like you at the start of your journey, thus making the girl you love to respect you again).

By weaving emotional needs into our plot, we create a story that resonates with readers on a deeper level, evoking empathy, and sparking introspection.

Next time we can talk about our character’s deepest fears (and yes, this goes deeper than just spiders or snakes), and how to weave that into a strong, interesting plot.

The Secret Desires of Characters

I plot.

All the time.

Just for fun.

I have a digital folder full of plots, many of which I’ll probably never use. Several of my writer friends tell me I’m crazy. They’d rather go to the dentist to get a cavity filled than plot their next novel.

But planning out a skeleton of a story is the best part of writing! I can see the whole thing in my head before I even start to write. Seeing the potential in a story gives me a writer’s buzz.

Before I start my 40-point beat sheet, there’s something important I have to figure out first.

What is my character’s want?

The want is the tangible goal that fuels their motivations. It should be possible to achieve, pushing them to take action and chase their dreams. I do this for all the major characters in the story.

Here are a few things to help you find their want:

Passion and Ambition: Does your character dream of becoming an artist, a scientist, or a fearless adventurer? Let their passion guide their actions throughout the story.

Longing for Connection: Does your character yearn for love, friendship, or a sense of belonging? Maybe they seek a deeper connection with family or long to mend broken relationships.

Pursuit of Justice: Does your character have a desire to right the wrongs of the world? Think about what they might be willing to do to make a difference.

Inner Fulfillment: Some characters hope to uncover their true purpose or find inner peace. This might include self-discovery, spiritual growth, or breaking free from social expectations.

Finding your characters’ want will help you come up with ideas for your plot — things you can throw in their way to prevent them from achieving their goal. This could include:

Obstacles and Challenges: Internal and external conflicts will test your characters’ courage, drive the story forward, and help them grow.

Choices and Consequences: The choices they make as they try to achieve their goal should have consequences. It might bring them closer to their desire or lead them down strange paths. But either way, it needs to be significant and meaningful.

Evolution and Transformation: Let your characters evolve as they pursue their wants. Whether they achieve their goals or not, their journey should be transformative.

Next time I’ll talk about how to find your characters’ need. Once you have a deeper idea of who your characters are, you’ll start typing out plots just for fun in no time! 🙂

My Self Publishing Journey

I’ve been studying the craft of writing for about fifteen years (with several years off in the middle of that), taking classes, reading books, and participating in critique groups. I have sent manuscripts out to agents or editors now and then, and received great feedback, with praise such as, “I’m going to kick myself for not taking this story on, but I have to pass,” or, “We loved this story and can tell you are a talented writer, but we don’t have a place for this story right now.”

As the years passed, I realized I wasn’t in love with the traditional publishing industry. My personality type doesn’t do well with high demand, high criticism, or high stress, which is probably why I haven’t put myself out there as much as my friends have over the years.

I never wanted to self-publish. I wanted someone professional to help me take my stories to the next level, and create stunning covers, and put them in stores, and create audio books for me. But I’ve come to realize the past year that I can learn to do all of that professionally, too, and get to enjoy my own books on my shelf instead of in my dropbox.

So I’m going to experiment with a few books. See what it takes to be self-published, see if I enjoy it, see if anyone out there in the over-saturated market might find and love my stories.

And for the first time in years, I’m excited about writing again! I’ve been learning new things as I’ve tried to figure out this website, and how to format my manuscript, and studying a little graphic design. It’s challenging, but I’ve realized I enjoy having control over how it all turns out!

So join me as I share things I’m learning along the way!